Category Archives: Positive Psychology

Re-Post: Cling less, love more – Just One Thing

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Dr. Rick Hanson’s “Just One Thing” newsletter has a fabulous commentary this week on the notion of grasping.  In Yoga Philosophy, we learn that grasping for something (pleasure, material things, relationships) contributes to suffering.  By bringing awareness to your heartfelt desires – comfort, connection, deeper meaning – and observing them without bonding yourself to them allows for greater emotional freedom.  But in truth, Rick says it best, so read for yourself.  Click the link below for more.

Cling less, love more – Just One Thing.

Lost and Found

The term depression is often used in a way that diminishes its true meaning and impact.  I’ve heard the phrase “Its so depressing” used in reference to parking spaces, clothing sizes, or the cancellation of a particularly favorite drink or food from one’s Starbucks menu, as in “Oh no!  No more gingerbread lattes?  That’s so depressing.”  Of course these types of moments are not in fact, depressing.   It is a phrase used to describe any moment or interchange in which we don’t get our way or we face minor frustrations.

In fact, true Depression is something much deeper and darker; Continue reading

Blindspots

Have you ever noticed how curious it is that you can see right through a friend’s problem that they can’t seem to see at all?  You have the same conversation with them over and over and they never seem to be able to figure out what to you seems obvious.  And your inner dialog might sound something like “Of course you two broke up.  You had completely different goals. Quite frankly, I’m surprised you are surprised.”  Or maybe your partner gets upset over the same issue repeatedly and doesn’t seem to recognize that they are getting all ‘worked up’ over nothing and that its possible to see the problem coming from a mile away….at least in your view.  There are numerous more examples of these types of situations.  I refer to these types of patterns as our blindspots.  Continue reading

How to Disarm a Hijacker

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Have you ever been the victim of an emotional hijacking?  If you are human, then most likely you have been emotionally hijacked ATLEAST 100 times (this is based on the minimum number of tantrums that I estimate the average child will have between the ages of 18 months and 4 years*).  But if you are like most people, then you’ve been hijacked in your adolescent, teen and adult life as well.  In other words, emotional overloads didn’t stop when you turned five.

Emotional hijacking often occurs when we suddenly move from a calm and rational state into one of more intense emotions, irrational thinking, and possibly even impulsive behavior if we aren’t careful.  The degree of severity of the hijacking and the amount of the ransom needed to ‘fix it’ depends on how charged you become over the experience. Continue reading